Why the quote on manners, you ask?
The Dash Kitten Crew are known to be strong on sharing, teaching, and helping our worldwide friends. So, when a trusted friend has an auction, a Kickstarter or GoFundMe appeal – we know sharing helps. Sharing is free, easy and can help people achieve a goal – a little effort from you, a good result for them.
“If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all”…..
According to Thumper the Rabbit in Bambi it’s what you do.
A trusted friend shared shared a GoFundMe for Kitty Cove. The folks at Kitty Cove have a dream. It is a terrific and positive dream. They want to transform a room at the Cove into a safe place for returned cats to transition back to shelter life at a time when they may be traumatised and fearful. Here’s what they say…….
“Long Beach Humane Society prides ourselves in our long-standing policy of accepting back the kittens & cats we have previously adopted. In the last 6-months we have accepted over 12 adults back into Kitty Cove that were adopted out as far back as 12-years ago.“
However, Kitty Cove’s compassion was not evident to one of the people who responded to a Dash Kitten Crew share on Facebook. Apparently it is wrong to propose ‘wasting money’ on giving a room a ‘makeover’ when they should be begging for food simply to feed the cats at the shelter. Say something nice was not in this person’s vocabulary.
How did we cope with this negative outburst?
Mum was polite, pointing out the immense benefits to the cats returning to the rescue, asking the person to look on the positive side at the cats’ welfare and wellbeing, to no avail. What started out as an unpleasant comment risked becoming an argument which would not change the person’s attitude. In the end Mum deleted the conversation. She believed it would not help the rescue, and, unfortunately the person was not ‘listening’ to the respectful reasoning put forward.
We did some thinking, and the crew at Dash Kitten propose some ways for dealing with something you disagree with, in a polite and honest way.
Suggestions for disagreeing (if you can’t say something nice)!
- You may not agree with a cause. This is fine, we can’t all agree about everything, but
- Be respectful of the fundraiser; to someone else the cause really matters.
- So Just Pass on by….
- You are NOT obliged to comment, or involve yourself, in any way whatsoever.
We hope this is a help
We know, from past experience, that our readers can be truly generous, and dig deep – remember the amazing response to Bootsie? But, you can’t be expected to give away money to every share, every time someone asks. You may not believe in the cause; you may not have money available for donations.
Hijacking an appeal or share to make a statement opposing it is both unkind and unfair. A fundraiser will be working hard to help a cause they believe in with all their heart. For Kitty Cove it was about a dream to welcome back returned cats with love and compassion:-
“We want them cage-free and in a peaceful setting for them to recover from their often stressful return to us. Our sketch includes windows providing natural light, sliding doors to enclose the area, proper ventilation to ensure good health, perches, toys and of course, fluffy comfortable bedding.“ Kitty Cove.
So, be kind, even if a fundraiser is not one you want to help.
Senior Specialist with Something Nice to Say